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Seven mindblowing picks for all who hate change
My Dear Friends,
As much as I consider change exciting, it is something I hate to deal with. Change comes in all shapes, sizes, flavours, and in many various ways; sometimes, we do not even notice that it happened.
The fact is, most people think change will have an immediate negative impact on their life. But let’s face it, this is a feeling which belongs to our ancestors who dwelled in caves, where a change could be life-threatening and had to be avoided at all costs.
A community breaking up could result in the neighbour community stealing all the food, which could result in a tribe being extinguished, men changing their hunting routine could lead to death by starvation, changing the way the entrance to the cave was protected could lead to the immediate danger of being attacked by a predator would rise exponentially.
As we are not living in caves anymore why is it so difficult for many to change or accept change? Here are some tips for making a change easier to do or accept.
Well then, let’s unveil the seven mindblowing picks
Pick # 1: Whether you like it or not, things are constantly changing
However hard you try not to let things change in your world, it will still happen, and you will be left out and trailed behind or, at worst, miss vital signs and risk your well-being. Without change, mankind would stagnate and die. Whatever and where ever changes happen every day, global events leave an impact on societies, the environment, and your community. Many who are afraid of changes miss out on vital information and fail to make necessary changes. Being aligned with current trends or being hopelessly out of step will determine your social status.
We can agree that not every change is worth adapting to, but we should still be curious and open-minded to what is going on and evaluate if we need to change to adapt.
Reminder: External change will make you flexible; internal change will bring you forward
If something excites you, a change that could better your life, by all means, take the risk and go for it. If you don´t, you have made your world consistent for now, but this is going to change sooner or later; however, this time, you have no control over the direction the change will take you.
Taking no risk or taking a risk, having a choice between mediocrity or the extraordinary, staying in the lead or being dragged along – you should always choose the latter and stay in control!
Pick #2: For things to stay the same forever is not necessarily beneficial
There is a huge temptation to keep things as they are because we grew up with them or got used to them. It gives us the illusion of comfort, and even the bad elements seem acceptable. But changing could make you much happier, less stressed, or more anxious. A change could help you be who you always wanted to be, give you control over everything that matters to you, and achieve what you always wanted. Give you the self-determination you need to have self-respect.
Reminder: If you do not make the change, others will, to their advantage
The most familiar choice is not necessarily truly yours and, least of all, always the right one. Sometimes we need to be brave, step outside our comfort zone, take control, and make the necessary changes we feel we can make to discover happiness.
Pick #3: We need change for personal growth
Just imagine yourself as a child or a young adult; I am sure things were good. Your family and the social tribe you were surrounded by gave you the reassurances and tools you needed to grow, but still, you had to go through many changes until you could call yourself grown-up. You had good and bad experiences alike, your learning curve was pointing up, and you changed accordingly and without much resistance.
Change is learning, learning is growing, and growing is life-so, live your life
Most likely, you sometimes miss your childhood days, your first friends from school or university, your social bubble, or your parents, but that doesn´t mean it is wrong to move on. You might be happily married and raising children or have a job that satisfies you, for this, you had to make changes. The many changes you made were subconsciously and driven by your desire to grow and become an accepted member of the grown-up community.
Reminder: Without change, we would still live in caves without the ability to use fire.
Why do we become so hesitant to change once we are part of the grown-up gang? Do we really believe that we do not need to grow further, or are we too lazy and wait for outer forces to make the change for us? I guess, for most of us, the answer is fear. To enter unchartered waters is scary, at least for most of us. But without change, we give up more and more control over our lives. We succumb to being victims instead of decision-makers because the world around us does not stop changing.
While we can recognize the good things we had in the past, we need to understand the necessary change and move while we still can decide which change and where to, or someone, will determine our future.
Don´t be afraid to give up the good to go for the great
John D. Rockefeeler
Pick #4: Change is positive; it is just a matter of your personal perspective
Change is never easy; even if you see it as a very exciting adventure, there are always downsides as well. Maybe your desire to take more responsibility for your financial future causes friction with your spouse, or questioning your wealth manager’s decisions results in him belittling you, or your decision to get more involved in investment decisions prevents you from seeing your friends as often as you used to. But dwelling on the negative is not helpful. Not making a change results in even more negative implications for you in the future.
Reminder: Change can be scary and uncomfortable, but only when you look at it that way
Focus on the benefits and what you can handle and control, be thankful for the strength you have to actually make a change, and be grateful for being so fortunate to start moving. This is your key to success.
Pick #5: A decision to make one change does not entail everything else has to change as well
We often feel the decision to change something will alter every part of our life completely. Rest assured, there will be things that never change and will always remain the same.
There are constants in your life, and unless you want to change them, they will stay the same. Your marriage will not break up just because you´ve made the decision to take responsibility for your financial future, your wealth manager will not punish you by making some bad investment decisions, nor will your friends desert you just because you decide to spend more time being controlling the management of your portfolio.
Reminder: A move does not change who you are, only the view outside the window
Maybe you decide to become more involved in investment decisions this does not mean you have fewer friends or no hobbies anymore.
Pick #6: Change has benefits for you; it is your decision and your privilege to make it
Maybe you feel happy and content right now, and things could not be better; why should you make a change? Because life is not static and things do change mainly due to forces outside ourselves, and to stay afloat, we need to adapt, and this entails changes. Do not procrastinate on changes until they become overdue, and you spend the rest of your life regretting not having made the change earlier.
Reminder: It takes much more energy and effort to resist change than it does to accept it.
Time never feels right for a change but is plenty of time for stress to haunt you for the rest of your life for every change not made while you had the time. It is our privilege to choose if and when to change – do not procrastinate. Better a wrong decision made than none at all; count yourself lucky enough to be able to start moving in new directions.
Pick#7: To change your feelings can bear more benefits than you dare to admit
While all emotions are valid, it is vital to realize that indulging in negative ones will send you down a negative path of feeling down, depressed, and out of control. Acknowledge how you feel, liger in that state for a short while, and commit to turning things around.
Reminder: Changing your feelings elevates your mood and helps you to balance life
Losing someone or a breakup can cause a lot of sadness, anxiety, and distress, and time will be the only healer; however, you can bring changes to your life and speed up the process. Like choosing to focus on those present, the adaptations you have to make, taking up a new hobby, or learning a new skill.
The change will bring a sense of security and gives you a reason to live on with renewed zest and energy.
The game-changer
So, here we are! It is time to embrace the winds of change from time to time! We’ve uncovered the secret to surviving change without breaking a sweat. Change is as normal as a wardrobe makeover – we can’t escape it! So why not welcome it with open arms?
Change is our greatest ally, whether it’s deciding to finally get in the driver’s seat where your finances are concerned, a fresh perspective, or a bold life move. Embrace it like a fashionista trying a new outfit – with excitement and confidence!
Remember, change is not a threat – it’s a catalyst for growth and discovery. So, let’s ditch the fear and rock that change like the queens we are! Embrace the thrill of the unknown because, in the end, it’s all about living our best lives!
